This goal is for you if you have a partner and your relationship has moved on from the phase; "Can't be away from each other for a second" to the phase; "Who's turn is it to take out the trash?".
Every relationship goes from being “the new” to being “the norm”. By having some special time for each other about once a month, you can refresh your relationship and get a nice combination of comfortable and exciting.
1. Sit down with my partner and schedule 6 date nights during the coming 6 months
What will you do on your date? A dinner and a movie is always nice but if you need something a bit less conventional here's a list of things to get your inspiration going.
Visit a new part of town and ask a stranger for a nice place to visit.
Go people watching and discuss what you believe the people who pass have for hobbies, dreams and goals.
Watch a sport none of you understand and try to figure out the rules just by watching. (Roller Football, Snooker, Underwater Rugby)
Have take-away dinner on the sidewalk.
Paint something ugly together.
Test drive some new cars without the intention of buying.
Go to the library and pick out a book for eachother or together.
2. Set the dates
The only thing you need to do at this stage is to sit down and decide which dates you are going to have your dates.
3. Plan the upcoming date
Before every date you should get together to plan the upcoming date in more detail. What should you do?
The classics: Dinner & a Movie, would require you to decide on a movie and make a reservation to eat somewhere.
We are not saying your dates need to be dinner and movies, but whatever your date will be, take this opportunity to prepare it properly. Do the research, make the decisions and set the appointments.
4. Date 1: Getting started
Let the first date be super conventional just to get started. Have dinner at a place you both enjoy or something similar.
The most important part of the first date is just to do it and feel good about the fact that you are trying. Try to discuss this project and get excited about it.
5. Date 2: Just being together
These instructions are just to give you some ideas and you and your partner probably have plenty of fun ideas to try out during your dates. But the second date could be a good time to really delve deep into what crazy or comfy things you want to do together on your dates. Remember that six months is a long time which means you can plan to go ice-skating even if it's late June, and you can plan to go skinny dipping even if its mid-February.
6. Date 3: Live a little!
Maybe it's time to exit your comfort zone a little bit! Try kareoke, poetry slam, dancing, yoga or do pottery. Find an acitivity that will bring the two of you closer together because it's so cringy, sweaty, scary or naughty.
7. Date 4: Something nice
Do something you both find nice and relaxing. Go to a museum, take a stroll in the park, have an ice cream, go to the movies. Something nice, comfy and relaxing. Discuss big things in life like childhood dreams or what you would do if you had lots and lots of money.
8. Date 5: What would they do?
Imagine or ask yourselves what a couple you look up to would do if they were to go on a date. You probably have someone around you or on social media who looks like the perfect couple. Copy them for once. No one needs to know.
9. Date 6: Talk about it
Have another date with whatever activity you feel like. Use the opportunity to discuss this dating-project and see if this is something you should continue with; keep it at once a month? More? Less? Which activities were your favorites (you don't need to agree on one) and which ones would you like to continue exploring?
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